Tuesday, September 30, 2008

Wow

Candid shots  crack me up-my bra strap is hanging out and I never realized how far I could open my mouth. (That's me on the right with some friends).  Sometimes this blog gets a little serious, and I did want to show that I do laugh at times, in fact, that looks pretty much like a guffaw.

22 comments:

Fern said...

oh Deb..so good to see you!

Mim said...

what a great picture! I love it and such a great laugh coming out - I can just hear it.

Teri C said...

LOL is what I did when I saw this! Happy is good!!

Slipstream said...

I like ya glasses :]

And it is really good to see you smile.

kj said...

:)

BBC said...

It looks like you all eat very well, that must be good for your health.

studio lolo said...

I love captured moments of happiness. Yay!!

Debra Kay said...

We did have a nice weekend.

Actually, BBC, everyone in that picture has probably lost at least 60 pounds (probably more, but I don't know track other people's weight).

Pretty much everyone that I saw ate some low fat protein, skipped the bread, had a vegetable. After visiting for an hour (Weight Loss Surgery Post Ops can't drink for 30 minutes to an hour after eating) we had a nice walk down to the coffee shop for skinny lattes and more gossip. The next morning, we got up early and all of us finished a 5K race-one of the ladies in my group won the race.

So yes, it was pretty healthy all in all. What is not healthy for anyone is making snarky comments about my friends. I don't know what you look like and I really couldn't care less. If you are thin, and somehow feel superior about your withered old ass, then you are probably further gone than I imagined.

What is it about three women, healthy, happy, sitting around a table that brings out the ugly in you? Is it that we are leaning in together, happy to be with each other, happy to be alive? Friendship, (kinship-there were relatives there) are all nice things. I believe the picture captures all of that pretty well, and not even you, Mr. Rainmaker, are going to take that away from me or anyone who reads this blog.

This is MY world, my space and if you can't behave in it, don't come back.

studio lolo said...

I came back to see if you had replied to the rainmaker because I literally groaned when I read his remark. I almost addressed him myself but he leaves me at a loss for words and I don't want to waste my time on his negativity.
You go girl!! I love every single word you said!

Debra Kay said...

Truly, BBC is like a little test of resolve-I want to be happy and he swoops in and says 'are you sure about that?" I'd like to believe that he knows what he's doing (it makes him feel kinder that way) but in truth, it doesn't matter to me if he knows or not-I use him for my own purposes. It's good practice to turn back negativity without adding to it.

But, there ARE rules of engagement. I don't allow rudeness to guests in my home or guests on my blog. I strongly suspect some misogyny in his case, sometimes what he says goes beyond just a guy carping on women, however there is nothing I can do about that except not to tolerate it in my presence.

On days when I don't feel up to it, I just delete his bullshit. Oh, if only everyone came with a built in delete button.

soulbrush said...

i am so very very glad to 'meet' you face to face at last...love your hairstyle (reminds me of someone i know tee hee) and as for those glasses...modern whoohoo...
(if you're anything like me at all, you show lotsa laughs on the outside and cry on the inside!)
thank god you have at last told that man to go take a hike! he is rude, and cruel and i don't know why he bothers to comment at all...or is it just to hurt?

soulbrush said...

and love that tat! mine is same place, opposite boob!

Debra Kay said...

Yep-those are my new specs-decided to go with something to offset the lack of hair.

I have never understood going out of your way to hurt someone that hasn't hurt you first-I'm still working on the restraint about lashing back, true.

It's kind of like an energy build up that has to be released I suppose. But really, taking potshots at a group of middle aged women having a lovely dinner is just kind of a pussy thing to do, so much so that it is now making me laugh......what a wanker. LOL LOL LOL.

Ok, and I can't believe I'm doing this-but coming from a place and an era where women had to be bought and woo'd and won, someone with no money, no social skills and very little else to offer is probably intimidated by women who don't have any use for someone like him. So, I can see what might make the anger rise. Dealing with it has to be his problem, not mine. Not enough patience in me for that one.

But, it is the sadness in BBC that keeps me from deleting him completely. Little bits of humanity peek out sometimes. It's like when the dog eats your diamond earrings-you dig through the shit for days just to see the sparkle. Only, sometimes the joke is on you. You left them in the other case, and there was only ever shit to begin with. Shall we title that the parable of Angry Old Men?

MuseSwings said...

Good to see you in person Deb! I can open my mouth wider 'n that, I think! A tattoo - cool. I have one on the opposite side of my er uhm bosom. And one on my foot. Looks like you are having a grand old time!
Cynthia

BBC said...

What is it about three women, healthy, happy, sitting around a table that brings out the ugly in you?

Your not healthy, you are all over weight and you know it. The advantage to that is that heavy people don't live to be a hundred so we don't have to look at them for a hundred years.

And here is a news alert, heavy women seldom get any sex, why would any man want to have sex with a heavy woman?

Unless of course he was also fat, but then I suppose that he would be a turn off to you?

Hey, I'm just being honest with you, if you can't handle it then you can't.

BBC said...

I'm a 150 pounds, what are you?

I'm the right weight for my size and height of 5' 9".

And I could hike your younger ass into the ground, while smoking a cigg.

And I'll bet you five hundred bucks that I can. You'll be lucky to make it to my age. Again, just saying. :-)

BBC said...

Before you waste the time saying it, I know I don't get any sex either. But why would I want to have sex with members of THE INSANE CHICKS SOCIETY (TICS) ????

kj said...

i suggest bbc be ignored totally and allowed to wither. lonely bitter old man, i'd guess. you'd be doing me a favor if you'd delete his comments...

Debra Kay said...

BBC, this is so friggin funny cause I just wrote an entry for tomorrow dealing with perspective and now YOU are telling me what it's like to be an overweight woman? I almost peed myself.

Here's a real news alert buddy-there are lifetimes of people and experience beyond what you can conceive of. Just because you can't do it or don't understand it doesn't mean it isn't real.

WLS = weight loss surgery. Yeah, I am pretty sure the other two knew they were fat when the plopped down 20 grand to lose weight so, extrapolating forward, I'm pretty sure we all know where we stand today. I keep checkin the picture-hmmmm, we all look pretty happy.

Not saying we cut up like that all the time-you caught us on a road trip, out having a great time. What amazes me is how badly you want to attack that and take that away. Are those dings on my computer more vile remarks? You really are pissed off and for some reason your anger is cracking me UP.

Debra Kay said...

Ok, I'm leaving the last few because it amuses me to watch you beat your manly chest and then turn around and rail on yourself. But after this post, you are cut off because, while you aren't hurting me now at the moment, you might hurt me later or you might hurt someone else and I don't feel like countering your every negative remark. Yes, it's my blog and I get the last word.....Be well, be gone! Poof.

*quick, someone light a match.....ewwwwwww*

soulbrush said...

yahooooooooooo, here's a box of matches, thanks!

studio lolo said...

This is me doin' the happy dance :)