Tuesday, August 12, 2008

You Tell Me

I think approval is a stronger drug than nicotene...and kicking that habit was a bitch and a half.

Does anyone find themselves choosing to do nothing at all vs. something they enjoy?

10 comments:

Fern said...

it's that phrase,'choosing to do nothing at all' that is hanging me up...snagging on my fragile sense of who I am.

if I can get past that word choose I may be able to answer your question honestly.

Debra Kay said...

Wow, and I thought I was being PC and sensitive. A more Okied up version of that would be "sit on your fat lazy ass and do nothing...."....but THAT gives millions of people nightmares to even contemplate.

Also, I think doing something is preferable to doing the wrong thing, although at some point you should figure things out and take action....I am poster girl for overthinking.

Fern said...

but just think how powerful you would be if what you chose to do/say/be was a conscious CHOICE...every time.

and with great power....

sometimes I am just so fond of default. it worries me.

Debra Kay said...

Well said Uncle Pete (or whoever spiderman's uncle was...Bob?...aunt mae and uncle....damn).

In my case, choosing to do nothing is a choice, because I won't let myself do what I want to do, and I don't want to do what I "should do"...but I don't believe in shoulds or anything THEY say, but I must cause I can't move past it. So, I sit and try to figure out why.

What a crazy riddle life is. The only answer applies to the moment, rules to live by are a sham. (Except the don't eat chicken at gas station rule-that one is gold).

Gandalf and Grayson said...

You have a lot of furry friends! Thanks so much for playing The Story Game with us today!! Be sure to stop by on Thursday to read our completed story! We never know where the story will take us, but we always enjoy the journey.

Slipstream said...

Every. Single. Day.

Debra Kay said...

G and G-Lookin forward to it.
Slip-LOL and Hugs. truly.

I did go to therapy-then I went for a seafood cocktail as I was recovered from the bad chicken incident. While calmly chewing and enjoying a bit of lovely octpus I dug for my next bite-and came up with a large, sauce covered housefly.

After rapidly reviewing my options I chose to 1. sit quietly and wait for the waiter to show him the insect and 2. Not throw up because it would mean at least 24 or perhaps 48 hours on liquids-my lapband can only take so much stress...

Yes, with great power comes great reponsibility. But it was weird, everyone in the restaurant was anglo (very unusual) and a fit at that moment could have been very damaging to a local business. But I did show the waiter because he needed to know there was at least one fly in the sauce.

And as I was sitting there trying to look composed and serene and not the least bit upset or nauseous, Fern's voice called out to me "with great power comes....."

BBC said...

Does anyone find themselves choosing to do nothing at all vs. something they enjoy?

That is a most interesting question. Can't say that I have ever choose to do nothing at all vs. something I enjoy.

Unless I simply couldn't afford to, like get a hooker, ha, ha, ha. But there are things I enjoy doing that cost nothing or little so I aways do things I enjoy.

And sometimes I just enjoy doing nothing. Being retired I just pretty much putter around all day long but in the process things get done.

Like I'm ready for the camping trip to the spiritual gathering this weekend other than a few last minute things.

And I will putter around taking my time getting there and putter around while there. I don't do the fast track anymore. that isn't what life is really about.

I think it is about love and camping but that is just me. Haven't found the right love but have the camping.

If you want approval from everyone maybe you need to take another look at yourself? Maybe they can't approve of something about you.

Actually, I have never gave a rats ass if everyone approved of me. I just collect those around me that do.

soulbrush said...

hells bells i wish i could detox myself of all need for approval....i hate myself for this need.

yes yes yes i do choose to do nothing and then more nothing and then more till i am sick of it and return to something and more something and them more and then suddenly fuck it, that need for approval rears its ugly head again!!!

human being said...

not always but more and more as i grow older...
seems addiction to 'approval' works in reverse... as a kid i did my best to be approved... but as i grew older this desire diminished little by little and i discovered my own personal joys more and more...